The following are questions that people have asked me regarding my D/s lifestyle over the years. If you have a question you'd like answered, please don't hesitate to send me an e-mail and ask.
Question: What is D/s?
D/s stands for Dominance & Submission. It is a lifestyle where someone willingly gives another individual control over them.
Question: What do you do, as a Submissive?
If you've ever watched the TV Show Merlin, it's much like what Gwen or Merlin does. I tend to Mistress Amanda's needs. Whether that be giving her a massage, pleasuring her sexually, kneeling next to her to give her company, or simply doing housework and chores. Whatever she asks me to do, I happily do.
Question: Do you get punished? What is it like?
Yes, punishments are part of our lifestyle, and will vary depending upon the indiscretion that I've committed. For example, if I touched myself sexually without her permission I am typically forbidden from participating in sexual activity for a day or two (She may instruct me to wear a chastity device as well). If I eat something that wasn't healthy for me that she has expressly forbidden me to eat, I may get flogged on my back or ass. The punishments however always fit the crime, and safe words are used so if it becomes too intense at any point, she stops immediately.
As far as what it's like, well.. it sucks. No one likes to be punished for doing something bad, I often feel sad that I've disappointed her when she punishes me, and that's the worst feeling for a submissive to experience.
Question: Do you wear a collar?
Yes I do, It's a handmade 1/4 inch stainless steel collar created by Vad Farkas of Ring of Steel.
Question: Do people make remarks about your collar?
Surprisingly, most don't think it's a collar. When they look at it, they often say things like "oh, that's such an awesome choker!" or "That's such a beautiful necklace!" They don't even realize that it's a collar. Those who do, often ask where I bought it so they can buy their own!
Question: What do you wear around the house?
99% of the time, I wear my normal clothing (or I go nude) sometimes I will wear my serving camisk created by Aella Kitteh. The only exception where I do not wear it, is in cases where Mistress is having important people over.
Question: What do you wear when you go out in public?
Normal clothing (or whatever Mistress desires me to wear) - Note: I never go scantily clothed or naked under any circumstances.
Question: Why do you enjoy D/s?
I enjoy D/s because it gives me a sense of comfort, security, guidance, and despite what haters of the lifestyle may tell you, it actually DOES teach me things that are important to know such as self-control, patience, following instructions, speaking up when it's important too, knowing when to stay silent, amongst other things.
Question: Isn't D/s just about kinky sex?
NO! Dominance & Submission (like other forms of BDSM) for us, is a LIFESTYLE. For some, yes they may see it as just a kinky form of bedroom play - we see it as a LIFESTYLE which means we live it 24/7 365. I call her Mistress when we're at home and/or amongst friends, and m'love, sweetheart, if we're in public. For us, sex is a part of our lifestyle but it's not all encompassing of what D/s is.
Question: Do you obey anyone who calls themselves a dominant (or behaves as one)?
NO! I am submissive only to Mistress Amanda. If she instructs me to obey someone else temporarily, I will do so... but just because I am submissive to her does NOT mean I am submissive to everyone who asks me to be so to them or behaves as such. I will respect them as a Dom/me and call them Sir, Ma'am, or Miss as they wish to be addressed, but I will not keel before them or serve them if they ask me too.