Most people hear Dominance and Submission and immediately start thinking of a poor helpless woman (or man in some cases) being bludgeoned repeatedly with a flogger or whip while they sit there screaming in pain, and I am not going to sugarcoat this... In SOME (but not all) cases, that can and does happen.
However, D/s relationships are similar to vanilla relationships, in that each one is unique and different to individual couples. Not all D/s relationships incorporate physical punishments, Not all D/s relationships incorporate sex, it all depends on the couple, what each person's kinks are, what their predefined limits are, and what they both agree will happen / not happen within the relationship.
So, what do we do in our day-to-day lives together? Well, pretty much anything we feel up to doing that day. Normally, we're on Second Life together going through our regular Fish Hunt circuit, or we're watching a movie on Netflix, sometimes we'll go out shopping together, then at the end of the night, we'll either scene for a bit, have fun, or cuddle.
Do we participate in the physical punishment aspect of BDSM? Yes we do, however it's not as intense as what people make it out to be. Yes, she'll use the flogger on me, yes she'll use a riding crop on me, and nipple clamps, and all sort of fun pain inducing toys... but if I say RED at any time, the whole scene stops and she starts doing aftercare with me immediately. Our main focus with any kink-based play that we participate in is first and foremost SAFETY. So if anything becomes too intense for me I say RED and she won't continue.
As to what it actually FEELS like being in a D/s relationship with Mistress, it's an incredible almost ethereal experience. Simply because of the negative past that I've had with D/s relationships. At one point, I felt that there was no one out there for me who would understand what I was looking for in a D/s relationship, would share the same viewpoints about D/s that I did, and would more importantly respect me not only as a submissive but a human being.
I never dreamed, that I would ever fall so deeply in love with someone so completely, or that I could ever feel so profoundly submissive as I do when I am in her presence, or when I hear her voice. When I am with her, my heart glows with a tremendous warmth that overwhelms my entire chest. I have actually felt it skip a beat when she gently strokes my back or holds me close to her so tenderly.
It fills me with unbridled joy when she asks me to complete a task for her, when I've done the task successfully and she calls me a good girl, I feel elated like I accomplished something really important and not to sound super cheesy or anything, but I'd say the feeling that I experience when I am with her day-to-day is the feeling of confidently knowing that this is my happily ever after. I finally, have my happily ever after, and it feels absolutely amazing.
This is what my experience has been like in our D/s relationship.